Judging the Book by the Cover

I had the privilege of attending a Grade 8 graduation last night. (Congratulations to all the young women and men who have completed one step of their journey and are beginning a new phase. A special congratulations to the young man that I went to honour. Bravo!)

I had recently been able to observe this class on a few occasions and it was a fascinating experience, I must say. Here was a sampling of our youth of today, each struggling to find their identity, to be accepted by the group while at the same time showing the world that they didn’t care. With one foot still in that of their childhood and a toe planted “securely” on the path towards adulthood, this precarious position provided a challenge for themselves and definitely for their teachers!

But they made it through – including the teacher. Last night was like a right of passage, letting them shift their position so that they now only have a toe left in their childhood and their other foot planted insecurely on the path towards adulthood. And this is where the judging comes into play.

In the classroom they were a group of confused and insecure children, showing their insecurities through gestures of non-compliance, confrontation, and an air of not caring. Last night, as they cast their robes of ‘tween-ness” and donned the garb of graduates (fine suits and dresses- they all looked extraordinary, I must say); their confidence and self-worth filled the room. No longer were they a menagerie of emotional chaos. Last night, they knew exactly who they were and where they were headed. Last night they were our future leaders and I was not afraid.

As they walk along their paths, in the future, some will fall back into the insecurities and self-doubt, some losing the battle of discovering their self-worth and the possibilities that are theirs to fulfill, and some will stay on their true path, well, with at least one foot anyway. And then there will be those who slip and slide their way along the path, falling off here and there, getting lost many times along the way. But don’t judge the book by the cover — if they have found their way once (last night’s graduation) then they can find their way again.. and again.. and again, if they need to.

This stumbling, backtracking, weaving back and forth, and one step forward and two steps back way of walking our paths is what life is about. It is about learning who we are and who we are not, what works for us and what doesn’t; it is about trying different options and different roles to see what fits; it’s about exploration and self-discovery; and it is about life guiding us by providing challenges and opportunities. It IS life and these young people are beginning a new chapter.

I can’t wait to see how their stories progress and I wish them all well on their journeys. May that one foot keep on the right path.

~ Debbie, The Gathering Place

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5 Comments

  1. bkjagadish said,

    June 25, 2010 at 7:15 am

    . Fabulous post Debbie , !! i kept reading this particular passage again & again & again for its beauty ….
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    ………It is about learning who we are and who we are not, what works for us and what doesn’t; it is about trying different options and different roles to see what fits; it’s about exploration and self-discovery; and it is about life guiding us by providing challenges and opportunities. It IS life and these young people are beginning a new chapter in their books of life.

    btw this particular post brought tears of joy for me as just yesterday my daughter’s result was out and she had successfully finished her GRADUATION in first class and now planning for Masters …it was my fond dream come true …!!…my 20 years of penance!!!!……THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU Debbie for taking me on this most sentimental journey of my life ..!!..God Bless You !…

  2. bkjagadish said,

    June 25, 2010 at 7:20 am

    Hey Debbie can I use some passages of your post to write to my little one ??…..Love & Bear Hugs :-)))))))

    • msdebbiep said,

      June 25, 2010 at 7:26 am

      of course you can … and CONGRATS on making it through the 20 years and seeing your little Angel spread her wings. And now we get to see what Possibilities are hers to fulfill 🙂

      and thanks for the kind words about my blog. 🙂
      Debbie

      • bkjagadish said,

        July 2, 2010 at 7:34 am

        Thank You so much dear Debbie for your blessings, & kind encoraging gem of words !!!…

  3. msdebbiep said,

    July 2, 2010 at 9:17 am

    aw . thanks 🙂


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