The Drive Behind Your Words

Yesterday, I was reminded by something I watched on TV (more because of circumstance than by choice), that our words are often chosen unconsciously by our emotions.

The scenario on TV was a debate between a group of people whose lives were directly impacted by the topic and a group of people who had an opinion on the subject. Both sides were quite passionate and emotions were either heightened (or a “show”) for the camera or were big clues that some hidden agenda was being played out.

Although the topic of underlying emotions was presented, the “opinion” side denied that they were holding onto something from their past. I wonder. From my own personal experience and my years of working with others, I can’t say that I can remember a time when passions ran high about a topic without some personal connection to the issue.

Yes, someone can have strong beliefs about a topic (also swayed by personal experience) but when the emotions jump in – tempers flare, veins pop, voices raise, and attack words uttered – well, to me, it is a red flag saying “stop and look within”.

When the warning signs appear, it is an indication that a wound from the past is still unhealed and the current situation has ripped off the scab of protection and we get thrown right back into where the trauma originally occurred, whether we remember it or not.

Having the awareness, courage and strength to stop what is happening in the now and to look at what is driving the emotions is one of the keys to living a healthy life. A piece of our “selves” has been left in the past and until we can release the pains that were attached to the event back then, well, we remain wounded. To become whole again is to acknowledge and let go of the pains and bring our whole selves back into the present.

It is definitely fascinating to be human and walk this path of awareness, discovery, and empowerment. Our emotions play a big role in our lives. Understanding them, well, that is the hard part!

~ Debbie, The Gathering Place


  1. bkjagadish said,

    April 10, 2010 at 2:08 am

    Nice piece Debbie , Thank You for sharing !!…

  2. msdebbiep said,

    April 10, 2010 at 5:17 am

    Thank you Jagadish.

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